Making Relationships Work

Every relationship is different, of course it is. They come in all shapes and sizes – with gathers, mothers, brothers, sisters, lovers, partners – and most of us will experience all kinds of relationships with others in our lives.

A lot of guests came on the show to try to heal rifts in their relationships, giving them the chance – perhaps for the first time – to really start to talk to each other about their problems and then to listen to the other person’s point of view.

Relationship counsellors always stress the extreme importance of communication. Talking to each other, really talking not just nodding vaguely while you’re watching the telly or busy with the kids, is at the heart of every good relationship.

Learning to resolve conflicts – and there always will be conflicts unless you’re sharing your like with an exact clone of yourself – is so important too. For couples, making time for each other, keeping your sex life active, ensuring each other is centre stage even when children and demanding most of your attention, growing old together – all are vital in making a partnership work.

Sometime “working at it” means seeking advice. Counselling when things are getting difficult between a couple or family members can prove really beneficial.

Relationship breakdowns have such huge consequences for families that it’s always worth looking for help before that breakdown becomes irretrievable.


Trisha's Tips

  • The most intimate thing a couple can do with each other is....TALK!! If you can’t explore each others hearts and souls, why are you bothering to explore each others bodies?
  • The building blocks of any good relationship are respect, communication, commitment, hard work and boundaries
  • Establish those boundaries – behaviour you will and will not accept – discuss them, agree to them and stick to them


Where to go for Help

Relate is the UK’s largest provider of relationship counselling and sex therapy as well as a range of other support services.
0300 100 1234 (standard rate)
Monday-Thursday 8am to 10pm
Friday 8am to 6pm
Saturday 9am to 5pm

British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy
The BACP can help you find suitable counsellors in your local area.
01455 88 33 16 (standard rate)
Monday-Friday 8.45am to 5pm

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